QI’m a straight 18-year-old girl in my first sexual relationship. Things are a little awkward, and I could chalk it up to inexperience, but here’s what I feel conflicted about: I have a vore fetish. It was a fascination for me as a young child and became a sexual thing around the time I hit puberty. I’m wondering now whether this is something I need to get off. It works well when I’m on my own, but I always thought “regular stuff” would work too once I was actually getting some. I’ve told my boyfriend about it, and he’s more than willing to role-play with me. But these fantasies are in-my-head-only, as they rarely feature human beings (think anthropomorphic monsters and dragons, strange as this may seem), so I don’t know if I could actually do this. Maybe we just need to hold out a little until we know what we’re doing and regular stuff will cut it after all? I have a mounting suspicion that it won’t, and I’m having trouble coming to terms with what seems to be a really warped, messed-up fetish. What if this is the only thing I can get off to? Am I doomed to solo sex forever? —Vore Only Really Excites
So while you may be “doomed” to go through life with this fetish, VORE, you are not doomed to solo sex. You can have your fantasies and partnered sex too.
QI live in a small city in a semirural area. I’m a single woman and am attracted to the idea of an underground swinger scene (or something similar) as a way to get some attachment-free action. But everyone around here knows each other or knows of each other, and something like this would be buried way underground. I’m convinced a swinging scene exists here, but I have no idea how to find it. Those who strike me as the people who’d know are people I wouldn’t want to ask. So aside from Craigslist, which I do not trust, how does one go about finding the swinging scene in a small town? —Small-Town Girl
